you know that infamous question that you get asked at parties— the one that comes after the obligatory “what’s your name?” and “where are you from?” the question that makes you say what you do for a living… yeah, i used to dread that question.
ten years ago, if you had met me at a random party and asked, “what do you do?” i would have cringed inside and given you some random answer that went kinda like this: “i’m a jill of all trades. i’m a real estate agent, i do social media for local businesses, and i do graphic design on the side.”
in all reality, graphic design work was my bread and butter. real estate was sucking the life out of me, and social media clients were fickle as heck.
the money was coming from graphic design. yet, despite the fact that that’s where the money was coming from, i never felt comfortable claiming my identity as a designer.
i was embarrassed because calling myself a “designer” meant that i had to be good. and, what if i wasn’t? what if i sucked?
i questioned whether i was worthy of the name “designer”. i was so concerned about what my talented designer friends would say about me and what they would think of my work that i never allowed myself to claim the title of “graphic designer.”
it felt much safer to say “i do graphic design on the side.” after all, if it’s just a side gig— no one expects you to be good. and if you are — well, then, they are pleasantly surprised. i would rather people be surprised than disappointed.
for years, i let shame/fear/people’s opinions keep me in a corner.
until one day, the light went on and i realized,
“I AM A DESIGNER. I NEED TO SAY I AM A DESIGNER.”
this moment i claimed my identity changed everything for me. when i began to claim who i was — a graphic designer — i gave myself the permission to grow, expand in my capacity, be known, act and think differently, and be successful. because, there is power in a name.
i went from sheepishly saying “i do graphic design on the side” to boldly saying “i’m a graphic designer”.
claiming my identity was my game changer— it allowed me to go from “barely making it” to building third story apartment up to a be successful branding and web design studio with a client list that spans the globe.
when i claimed my identity, i gave myself the freedom to know who i was, know my worth, and recognize the value i had to add to this world.
as dreamers and entrepreneurs, we must remember that our words and what we call ourselves shape our lives and the world around us. when we claim who we are and speak it out— we shift the atmosphere with our words and we give ourselves the permission to grow and evolve, stepping into who we were purposed to become.
it’s our words that pull us forward towards the future.
when you move with temerity, unafraid to claim who you are and who you are becoming, the atmosphere begins to shift— preparing everything to shift, align, and collide with you so that what you speak will become your reality.
so, take time to think about these things:
it’s time to kick fear and shame to the curb to claim our identity and be who we were created to be. because we’re all human, all in the process of becoming, and all here for a divine purpose with big dreams inside of us.
claim who you want to be until you become it, and don’t let fear steal opportunity from you.
there’s power in a name, my friend.
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